What Can You Do?
Here Are Some Ways You Can Help

• Let her know that you notice and care about what happens to her.

• Start talking to her; don't interrogate her.  Keep communication open.

• Tell it like it is.  Remind her that jealousy is not love: it's control.

• Listen to her and believe her.  Don't blame her.

• It is okay to tell he that you are afraid for her and that you think her boyfriend is dangerous. 

• Set limits together with your teen and make a safety plan

• Try to agree on safe circumstances under which she may see her boyfriend.  That way you will give her a chance to judge him herself.

• Even if she denies being in danger, make sure she knows what to do in an emergency.

• Tell her you will pick her up anywhere, anytime, no questions asked.

• Tell neighbors, family and school officials what to watch for.

• Say what you feel, lovingly.

• Listen to your teen.  Do not scream and yell and tell her what she can and can't do - because that's what her boyfriend is doing.