HOW TO TELL

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Warning Signs of a Violent Relationship
	Does Your Partner . . . . . ?
		try to control and isolate you
		exhibit constant jealousy
		identify with the macho-male image
		use drug and/or alcohol
		come from an abusive home
		lose his temper
		blame others for his/her actions
		use aggressive language
		restrict you/tell you what to do
		show disrespect for others in authority
		tell you that you are worthless
		embarrass you in front of others
		always wants to have his own way
		not support your relationship with your family & friends
		act very willful and self-centered
		believe he can be violent without any consequences
		tell you that you are worthless
		blame your for any problems in the relationship
		expect you to agree with his ideas
		not support your activities at home and at school

Remember: Violence and abuse are not your fault! Nothing you do can cause another person to abuse you. The person who behaves abusively is responsible for changing that behavior. You always deserve to be treated with respect.

	Do You Feel . . . . ?
			sorry for him
			flattered by all his attention
			that all you have ever wanted is someone to love and love you back in return
			more relaxed at school now that you have a boyfriend
			that if you could do everything he asks, the violence and abuse would stop
			afraid to break-up because he has threatened to tell someone something bad about you
			responsible for the violence/abuse
			that you are the only person who loves and understands him enough to help him
			that because you had sex with him the right thing to do is stay with him
			that his possessiveness is proof of his love for you
			afraid that if you end the relationship he will hurt himself or someone else
			that things will work out and get better on their own
			that when you are married he won't have a reason to feel insecure about your love for him
			no one understands that you really love him

Warning Signs of a Violent Relationship